i was just wondering if anyone else becomes more motivated when poked at or "playfully" being joked with? i have struggled with my weight since i was 14. ive lost a lot and been skinny and always get comfy and blow back up then ill lose again and ive never been comfortable in my own skin. im a 36 year old man who cant take his shirt off EVER. i try to make jokes first most of the time, but i do seriously have man boobs, they are what i have been most ashamed of forever. i was at a cookout for mothers day and we were at a creek and i took my shirt off and mother in law jokingly said wow you need a bra dont you? something clicked in my head and i cant get that phrase out of my head. i even had them when i had lost a lot of weight, but i am bound and determined this time to be fit not just skinny. i just didnt know if others had had a similar experience. thanks in advance everyone.
anybody else get negative motivation?
- Thread starter wesw0000
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First of all, I have not nay similar experience. For weight loss, you need a regular workout of 1 hour at least which also include cardio. Run 30 minutes daily in the morning and evening. Follow health diets which burn your fat and extra calories. Add healthy food in your diet and ignore fast foods. Eat almonds, Coconut water, berries, eggs and green vegetables.
You need to spend time dedicatlly, If you can not, then again, you will here to share your current experience again.
Try it for 3 months, you will see the improvement.
All the best and Good Luck.
You need to spend time dedicatlly, If you can not, then again, you will here to share your current experience again.
Try it for 3 months, you will see the improvement.
All the best and Good Luck.
First of all, I think that's a pretty rude and insensitive comment for your mother in law to make. I've had people make mean comments about my appearance before, and they didn't motivate me at all-- they made me feel badly about myself, which in turn made me want to eat for emotional comfort. Go figure, right? But I'm aware that I'm a very sensitive person, so oftentimes I get easily hurt by things people say, even if they mean them lightheartedly.
If the negative motivation works for you, then I guess I'd say: roll with it, but try to turn the feeling into a happy futuristic projection. For example, instead of hearing your mother in law's voice in your head making fun of you, picture what it would feel like to take off your shirt at a barbeque and have her say, "Wow! You're looking so healthy/toned/great these days!" And certainly don't let the reactions of negative people be the only factor in the decision you're making. My feeling is that if you're basing an entire new lifestyle on other people's throwaway comments, it's going to be really, really hard to stick to a routine and to feel good about it. I think you would be better off focusing mostly on the positive-- things you like about your body already, and people who will support you in becoming more fit and more healthy.
If the negative motivation works for you, then I guess I'd say: roll with it, but try to turn the feeling into a happy futuristic projection. For example, instead of hearing your mother in law's voice in your head making fun of you, picture what it would feel like to take off your shirt at a barbeque and have her say, "Wow! You're looking so healthy/toned/great these days!" And certainly don't let the reactions of negative people be the only factor in the decision you're making. My feeling is that if you're basing an entire new lifestyle on other people's throwaway comments, it's going to be really, really hard to stick to a routine and to feel good about it. I think you would be better off focusing mostly on the positive-- things you like about your body already, and people who will support you in becoming more fit and more healthy.
