A very sad sight...

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I saw an extremely sad sight yesterday. Please note that there is not a single 'snicker' or 'wink' in this post.

I saw a women around the age of 55 or so (hard to tell her real age) coming out of a building and getting into a van that someone had pulled up to the door to pick her up in. She was very large. When I say very large, I am being conservative. She exited the door and paused to catch her breath. She shuffled about five more steps and paused again. A few steps later, she was at the van where she paused again to catch her breath. I could instantly tell it was going to be quite a struggle for her to get into the van. She struggled to put a foot in, paused to breath. Put part of her seat in, paused to breath. I won't go into any more details because it was sad, but it took her several minutes to get into the van and she still hadn't closed herself into the door by the time I had left. If she had been able to see me, I would definitely not have watched the proceedings, but since she couldn't see me at all, I just had to watch in disbelief. I can't even describe the sick feeling I got in the pit of my tummy. There was not a snicker or snear in me...just wide-eyed disbelief in the whole situation that I was sitting there watching. I felt like crying for her. She has got to be killing herself. I don't see how much more her heart could possibly take.

The whole time I was watching this, I couldn't help but be horrified with the thought that if I lose my focus, that could be me when I am about 55 or so. Let's just say that the whole experience was extremely motivating to me.
 
oh my , that does sound very sad. We should be thankful that we knocked some sense into ourselves befer we ever got to that stage. I see many extremely over weight people like that too, wether it's in the store or on the street, in wheelchairs, and i think to myself, at this age i am at and at this much weight that im at by the time im 50 i'll weigh 500 pounds if something isn't done. Best we can do is be healthy to prevent having to go through everyday tasks such as getting into a van. Just reading what you saw, i instantly tried to imagine just how cruel people must have been to her about her weight and how she's been laughed at and pointed at, does make me want to cry, and as much as i would love to help those who are much deeper in this then you and I, i can only try to better myself and set an example for those around me.
 
Once I was in the foodcourt of a mall where I worked and I saw two women, who were in their 60's maybe or late 50's, quite over weight, eating what looked to be fries, gravey, dressing and whatever else they had. One of them had an air tube in her nose, which I can only assume means some sort of health problem. I felt so sick when I saw that because it's such a shame that people, who perhaps weren't health conscious growing up, letting their lives be in such danger like that. And all for the love of food.
When I think about it sometimes, it seems so trivial. Having to give up bad foods shouldn't be such a torture, but the fact is, that it is.

I used to see people bring their kids, who were overweight to food places I've worked, and although one was a sub store, they still let them order the biggest, greasiest and fattiest subs. It breaks my heart. I wish everyone had the stregnth to try. But I know it's difficult.
 
it is sad. ive seen so many people like that. my own mother was close to that but she lost it all (my mom is famous but i wont reveal her identity)

if you watch TLC they air these documentaries with large people who are literally eating themselves to death, and some of them actually die from eating to much. they just become to fat and their bodies become toxic and they die from it, some people were easily over 800 pounds in the documentary, it was quit sad. ill fish around google for the names, maybe someones even posted them online somewhere. but again, its sad to say, but you have to control yourself, or end up out of control like these people. maybe they need support way more than we do, wouldnt it be nice to give them a business card or the likes to redirect them to a good site like this.

oh well, when people really want help theyll go find it.
 
Yah i seen one of thos documentaries I believe it was called "The 700 pound man" he was very big, sad to say this but he looked like a slob of dough on a bed, that's how bad it was, he had what looked like bruises all over his body, i think that has a specific name when you don't move and then you get this skin rash. Anyway he had a wife and he was loved by everyone in the treatment center he was in, but he was so far in that he didn't really want to help himself. He would get junk hidden in closest , well someone hid it for him i guess because the nurses all found it. I thought he would make it, but i was sad only to find out he passed away very soon after the taping of the show :(
 
The scary thing for me is how close I am to being that. I live a fully functional life with a job, a friend, hobbies and functioning independently, but I was 465 when I started this and I believe I was once at about 500. That's not far from being at that level of helplessness. I also know that my love life has been stuck for several years now at about the second date level for awhile because of looking like dough ;-). I know I have to go slowly and I've made great progress in only 2 months. I can make more. In June I couldn't walk 6 blocks without needing a break. Its really hard to make changes at 37. It'd be even tougher at 55.
 
Wow Cannon....I am even more proud of you hearing about where you are coming from! I just wish there was a way to help these people without coming across in a bad way. I hate seeing people just give up on their lives because they think they have gone 'too far' so to speak. If only they would realize just how much better they would feel at EVERY step of the way and not JUST when they get skinny, maybe they would just start a little at a time. I can imagine how daunting it must feel to them. When my 255 lbs I started with smacked me in the face and made me realize how overweight I was, I was quite overwhelmed....but that first 20 or so lbs coming off and I got more encouraged. I could do more things and felt more comfortable even just after the first 20 lbs. If that lady first focused on losing maybe about 30 lbs or so first, I bet her breathing and walking would see drastic improvements. Small goals at a time.
 
I think the tough part is when you try and lose the weight and you fail. After awhile it seems easier to just stop trying. I guess it's human nature, but if you want to lose the weight you really have to work to overcome it.
 
Cannon 2006 said:
I think the tough part is when you try and lose the weight and you fail. After awhile it seems easier to just stop trying. I guess it's human nature, but if you want to lose the weight you really have to work to overcome it.
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I have tried and failed a lot this past year,and it was always easier for me to just give up and do what i did best "eat my favourtie junk food"
I somehow decided to try again with the fear of giving up again , but i've done it this time it's been 12 days and i have never come this far, you can do it too and so can those people who have much more weight to lose. I think if a person really wants to , it can be done, if they sit there wishing it would just melt off , well then the exact opposite is going to happen.
 
An old story yet one you should never forget:

POSTED: 6:52 am CDT August 12, 2004
UPDATED: 3:41 pm CDT August 12, 2004


A dramatic rescue ended tragically in Florida Wednesday when a woman died after being stuck to her couch.

Rescuers responded to a call at the Martin County home of a woman who was having trouble breathing.

The difficulty arose when emergency workers failed, after six hours, to dislodge 480-pound Gayle Laverne Grinds, from the couch in her home.
Click here to find out more!

Workers said the home was filthy, and Grinds, 40, was too large to get up from the couch, even to use the bathroom.

Authorities estimate that she had been on the couch anywhere from two to six years. Her skin had reportedly grafted to the fabric in the couch.

Rescuers removed a sliding glass door in order to lift the couch, with the woman on it, and load it onto a trailer behind a pickup truck.

She died at Martin Memorial Hospital South, Orlando, still attached to the couch.

A preliminary autopsy on the the four-foot, ten-inch woman lists the cause of death as "morbid obesity.

This was the kindest version of this story. There are more graphic versions of her story online.
 
That video sure knocked some more sense into me, that's horrible that he lives that way but u know what his brain works JUSTTTTTTT fine, and he knows that he shouldn't be eating KFC and she shouldn't be providing him with it as much as i sound mean, it's true. I would never be able to sit there looking at that person him laying there helpless and practically paralized, and cook him all this fatty food. But she's not at fault he's a grown man, he knows how to say no.
 
I had the same experience about a month ago. Me and my dad went to these ladies house who run a condo service business and we had to make a payment to them.

Anyway I waited in the car and the 2 ladies who own the business came home in a van. We were parked right behind their van. They both got out, 1 could actually walk decently but was real slow, she was probably 300lbs at the least. Her mother probably took 10 minutes to walk to the door she had a big crouch with her, Now I know she is older but I also think she needs it because she weights probably 300+.

I looked at their faces and they both seemed really unhappy. I felt real bad and knew that not too long ago I weighed more then them probably. It just made me realize even more how much I need to get to my goal weight and never go back to the way I was at any cost. I did not stare at them for my pleasure or to make myself feel better, but I was just real teary eye for them because I knew I was heading towards the same path.
 
Oh, my friggin god! This thread totally made me cry. Not only am I so sad for all those people, but also scared to death of being one of them. T2 I think I need to watch that video every morning before I go off to work so I won't even be tempted by anything. I could totally be that man some day if I gave up on trying to lose weight. Today I was upset because I didn't lose any weight this week. I actually took a bite of a cream filled doughnut...once it was in my mouth I thought this is not even worth it and I spit it out. Man am I glad I spit it out!
 
Wow...you spit it out--I never could've done that. ummm...chocolate cream filled donut.

Anyway, I watched all 5 clips of that video and now I'm not feeling so fat...but I am feeling like 'holy bleep, how did they let it get that bad'. There has to be a point when you say enough is enough. You'd think it would've been the day he decided he couldn't walk, or the day when his wife first had to wipe his behind. I seriously can't believe that they let it go on like that...he's only 36, she's only 36. Looking at him, there is no way that he's only 700 pounds...I would've been mortified to have to be forklifted into a plane. I really hope that they can make it through this. His nephew must be so ashamed to have such an Uncle. That's harsh yes, but the reality is that everyone looks and gawks at the fat guy and seeing this guy....it's no wonder people are critical.

I also watched a clip about this other 700 pound guy who 'loves food'. He ordered everything and the kitchen sink off of the mcdonalds menu...how can you seriously eat all that crap. I eat one happy meal and I'm crappin' it out an hour later.

It's just seriously messed up.
 
addictions and habits.

its not hard to beleive.

sometimes it feels like i woke up fat, but i know its not the truth. i had to work at it wether i realized it at the time or not.
 
yo, this thread really got me thinking, especially about the woman stuck to he couch! who ever was bringing her food should have been shot, i mean hello. I have an aunt who weighs around 500 pounds, she used to be a little bit of a nothing at 110 lbs, a few days ago i saw her at wal-mart in one of thoes moterized cart deals they have, I went and talked to her and she told me how she had sprained her ankel and that is why she was using the cart.but i know it is because she cant get around the store anymore and all i was thinking is "dude this could be me in 20 years if i fall off the wagon again" it is sad to see individuals with so much to give drowning in their own bodies, like a prison. Yeah it is a real motivator. I pray that i can do it this time.
 
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