alright i've been talking to this girl and "hanging" out with her for the last month and a half. her ex boyfriend raped her and she had an abortion from him yet she still cant get over him...every body said she was gettin better being with me but she still talks to him and **** and wears a ring he bought her. She says she wears it cuz it's nice and expensive but i dont know. The last 2 weeks have been going fine but the other day he called again rite in front of me and I cant take it any more. I think I fell hard for this girl but last nite i made the decsion for her to stop talking to me until she figures her **** out....because it just hurts me when she doenst know. She was upset and said she liked me but idk wat to do
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Umm, is she lying about the rape? Maybe she was embarassed about the abortion and felt like she had to make something up to justify it :-/
Dude, you've only known her for 2 months and you are already seeing how unstable she is. Ditch her unless you are really bored and want a bunch of drama added to your life.
~Nicole
Dude, you've only known her for 2 months and you are already seeing how unstable she is. Ditch her unless you are really bored and want a bunch of drama added to your life.
~Nicole
Listen to this advice bro.....
woah brutha... you definitely need to chill then...
you're young, and your right, have fun
I feel like the guy who started this thread was talking about me. Although I'm in a new relationship, I was in a very serious one with my ex. I still wear his ring on my right hand and kept all his notes he wrote me. He still calls me all the time as well and for whatever reason I cannot cut him out of my life. My new bf has big issues with him and wants me to tell him to get lost but I cant. I don't feel like I can be the same person and give of myself completel ever again even though I have tried to move on.
I think your gf is having closure problems. What you have to do is tell her she must make a choice. Either go back to her ex, stay with you, or be single.
I think your gf is having closure problems. What you have to do is tell her she must make a choice. Either go back to her ex, stay with you, or be single.
i agree that those are similar situations, but if your gf really got raped, its even more reason to end it with her ex. no one deserves that. personally i dont care how much i love someone, if they do that its done. But ya, i agree with everyone else, if you talk to her and shes not seriously ready to end it with her ex, then leave her.
yea thats what i'm saying but i just want to make her happy and i see thats shes trying so hard to get over him and i think shes gettin there and ppl say that shes happier with me and idk i cant control how i feel....but than sometimes i feel as if even tho I dont wanna let go that i should suck it up and get over it cuz i'm a senior in highschool
If you look at it from this perspective, when you tell her that you need to decide who you need to be with, it would kind of put a force decision on her, and most likly, at least what i think, would force her to get over the guy. Me, personally, would drop her ass faster than a hot potato, but if you think you see somthing in this girl, go with what your instinct tells you bro.
I don't think that getting over someone is something you can make happen on your own, but you can create an environment where making the letting go is easier. Boxing up photos and gifts and putting them away (or giving/throwing them away) is a step in that direction. This is especially true of the ring. The fact she still wears it seems to indicate she's either not willing or not able to let go. (What would she do if you started wearing a ring or something similar from another girl?).
What can you do? If you're not exclusive already, keep it that way - it will allow you to explore other options. If you are exclusive (which, even if you said you were, the whole point/problem here is that she really isn't), start distancing yourself, even to the point of suggesting seeing other people and say why you're suggesting it. It's not going to be easy, but it will avoid a lot of the games and trouble later on.
What can you do? If you're not exclusive already, keep it that way - it will allow you to explore other options. If you are exclusive (which, even if you said you were, the whole point/problem here is that she really isn't), start distancing yourself, even to the point of suggesting seeing other people and say why you're suggesting it. It's not going to be easy, but it will avoid a lot of the games and trouble later on.
If that's really true, then you probably should rethink your current relationship. Cleaning the slate of all relationships for a while might be an idea so you can focus on yourself and what you want.