anonymous losing inches

aaah..just took a breath;)
 
it is so amazing that i never thought that i am always on a move until i started documnting what i do on daily basis:p
and i think i do ALOT!!!
though i dont get to type my all day routine..
have another news
i found a baby sitter she will keep my son for an hour at her place(and get big money:|)..so i can do my workouts:)
 
Great! That will give you much needed time alone too. I have to hand it to you Sadie. I KNOW for a fact that a stay at home moms work a lot harder than a mom who works.

First off, even though we're doing essentially the same things (cooking, cleaning, laundry) my place is empty all throughout the day, so there's no one home making a huge mess.

My messes are more controlled, and I get more help now, because I was such a young mom, my kids are older-well one of them anyway-she helps now. She's 15 and helps out. The 8 year old picks up after herself if I ask.

You definitely have your hands full!! I feel you though, sometimes I feel like the only clean room is mine! That's because I don't share it with anyone LOL.
 
wow i will have to wait for another 6/7 ywears before he can clean up the mess he made but u know our culture doest let men do house chores or keeping a home tidy..they say"its a womens work"
men here feel ashamed of doing laundry ,or dishes
i hope my son doesnt become a mean man..my sons father doesnt even go to the kitchen to get a galss of water
he will leave his dirty clothes on floor and go to work
he even doesnt care if kid is making a mess when he is around,beacuse he knows"Mommy will be here in a couple of minutes to clean this mess"
:)
 
slimsadie said:
wow i will have to wait for another 6/7 ywears before he can clean up the mess he made but u know our culture doest let men do house chores or keeping a home tidy..they say"its a womens work"
men here feel ashamed of doing laundry ,or dishes
i hope my son doesnt become a mean man..my sons father doesnt even go to the kitchen to get a galss of water
he will leave his dirty clothes on floor and go to work
he even doesnt care if kid is making a mess when he is around,beacuse he knows"Mommy will be here in a couple of minutes to clean this mess"
:)
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That is wrong on sooooo many levels..Tell him to get a maid, you are his wife not his slave. Ok I have to stop before I make you mad or offend you. I just hate that thought process, you are far more than someones maid.Ok I'm sorry, it just makes me sad.:(
 
You've got a lot to be proud of Sadie! In all seriousness, I know enough about differences in cultures to know how hard you have it.

You're not appreciated for the wonderful being that you are; I'm sure at times you feel unloved and forgotten.

But remember that you always have people who understand even if we're a million miles away. Fate can be so cruel...:(
 
Wow...If I was a member of your culture Sadie...I would have been shunned...I am such a rebel towards that kind of mentality....so its real hard for me to sit back and watch someone live their entire life thinking it HAS to be that way....I don't think that type of culture is good for a woman or a young boy growing up either. If he grows up under that rule....believe me he'll be just like all the other men you know. But its not my place to say that ,,,not like you asked ME for my opinion at all....I don't know....I was in a relationship like that but people just ignored it not egged it on...

I knew getting out of my relationship would break my world in half for a while and it did. Then it started mending . I thought I would have NO life and everyone would hate me....but the ones who do? They are the ones who are evil themselves...and now the kids. They have a happy lifestyle one not where Mommy is rundown and humbled beyond recognition..........

I wish to you an enlightenment. I'm sure you are very smart. But is this IT...like is this your life and thats it???

Come on......

So you are going to go through the rest of your ONLY life as we know it under the point of view of a helpless caged animal of some sort?

No offense directed to you at all. I know this is a fitness forum...but when you put things up like that...it would be a miracle if everyone said 'Oh great, I'm glad you're happy and remember picking up your husband's dirty underwear and socks is what we're good at!"...... : /

I guess its hard for me to just take an entry like that and disregard the real person behind these 'E-words' on the screen of a fitness forum...when I know that YOU are out there sad inside some days...and if you are happy does that not last all that long anymore???

I am sad for you, I do not wish for you to banish yourself to a predestiny such as this empty location in your life.....

Real love is not what you have come to know in this man if this is the truth, which I do not doubt at all, then you have been duped.....brainwashed.....

I am only a friend on a screen but I care.

This entire reply is not to be taken as offensive and if I were speaking with you personally, please know it would be said in a blunt, yet sympathetic and persuasive tone...I would only want for you to be truly happy , know that its never too late to change the path you have made EVER.

Its odd for a culture to have their society bow under such superficial gestures in a marriage...

But I wish you the best and God bless you
 
I agree w/Jaymie, but all of us have to keep in mind that you are from another culture and the "rules" are so much different. I can only say just stay strong (even though I said that in the earlier post) and do alot of praying that you'll get thru each day w/out having a breakdown.
 
thank u everyone who stopped by ,i wish i had a solution,but i dont have one yet
i am thiking ove what to do and when..but having no working experience and not much education doesnt really help
i am just waitig for the day to make my move..but it will take some 4/5 yeras..untilll then i am humble and bearing everything since arguing on issues and staying togather can make a very unpleasent atmosphere for kid,since he is learing things now,and for him mommy and daddy are the stars(though thre is so much abuse around the house but still) he needs some early years of his life to be his father so he canont blame me later that why i rushed in to getting seperated..and going through a seperation at this early age can be nerve wrecking for him later in his life
i am with this man just because of the kid,and some social pressure offcourse
right now i am working on what /when and how to sort this issue
u know i am not the only me who is gong through this..there are 3out of 5women who arent happy in ther married life , in this part of the wold,but they have to go through this because its what we call FATE
for me i am a bit enlightened having so much interaction through internet that i feel i am oppressed more than those who are going through this too

what jenn said in reply of i would like to tell u that
once i said to him..u know white men(atleast the ones i know) are very helpful with their partners..and he told me the white wome work,bring mony home so they are not dependent,and u are nothing but waste of money,and a burden on me.

if i had given a choice i was never going to marry an asian guy i was going to marry a sensible white guy ,as far as know they are very caring,and respect the feelings of their partners.
u are always welcome Jaymie,i didnt take anything as an offence:)

well ..this Diary is becoming more personal than a fitness one:eek:
so lets talk about exercise did 32 minutes incline 10% on TM,and weight traing after that..today i will be doing kathy smiths yoga(maybe)..
 
Get back exercising and take your mind off everything else at least for little bit. There are some white men who think the way that your man does, so it's all not that groovy w/some whites either.
 
You are beautiful Sadie :)

Remember that ;)

No one can take who you are away from you. You have a sweet little boy and he will not hate you for taking away a negative atmosphere , he will thank you alot one day when he realizes that things are better.

I know it seems crazy or scary to think of what you would do on your own. But there are many things that come together for you when you would least expect it to. Right now it will seem real hard. But it will be worth it in the future for you and your son.

:)

So TM is tread mill right? you got one at home or do you go to the gym ?

okay take care !
 
well ..this Diary is becoming more personal than a fitness one
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What goes on in our personal life effects our fitness. Don't worry if the diary turns personal. We are here to help out, either personal or fitness.
 
i am very plesed with my progress so far..my calves are rock solid now bum is a bit more firm and round too:D

and i have some muscles around my chest so i look quiet proportionate :)



and as far as eating is concerend i am eating loads now and specailly junk:|,smoking heavily,and stress level is beyond explaination now too



VENT
it rained here today,all the water came in the rooms and lounge my shoes were floating and kid was happy offcourse he had a pool in room



i woke him up but instead of helping me out to get the water out of the house he kept staring at it..and enjoyed wtaching his kid playing in water

water level was rising i hardly moved my treadmill in the other room where the water hadnt reached yet ,and kept filling the buckets and throwing in drain..and he was just standing there ,and calling me fool

my furniture was getting ruined,but why would he care???

he just stood there and held a viper in his hand..i went out in the rain and storm to see if the main severge line is blocked it didnt look blocked but water wasnt going through it..i used a pole to see if something is stuck in there,but nothing came out

then i went down stairs and inserted the pole in from there..and woah..the water came rushing out i was about to fell down,lost my balance but grabbed the wall at the right moment:)

all the water was gone..but my work doesnt stop here now i had water everywher that i sweaped..but carpets are still wet:(

and i literally wanted to kick his butt for not helping me after all its his home too:|

but thats what asian men are good for,just calling there partners stupid and helping them
 
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